Are You Robbing Yourself of Joy?



I am currently in Chattanooga about to record some video for an upcoming video series on Affirmations. I’ve been researching a ton of videos that I want to emulate. Of course, I chose to compare myself to Marie Forleo or Kris Carr.

Bad idea!

I instantly felt like a failure. As I fought back the tears and my emotions started to compound, I thought to myself… 

You are such a joke. Here you are in Chattanooga with your freaking handy cam. Your assistant is going to film the whole thing and neither of you have any experience doing this. What are you thinking? This is going to be embarrassing. You should just bag the whole thing.

What I realized is that I was comparing myself to expert women who have been doing this for years. They earned the ability to spend thousands of dollars on production and are the cream of the crop. They have worked into where they are now, and certainly didn’t start there.


I realized that I needed to tell myself another story. The story that I needed to affirm in myself was the truth, and also what I wanted to truth to be. After my little meltdown, I was ready to redefine my experience.

My new affirmation 

I communicate through video beautifully and offer inspiration that will change lives. This video series looks professional, communicates my brand and makes me proud of what I do. I can’t wait to get it up on my site and share it with my peeps!

My dears, there is real danger in comparison. It robs us of our own journey, our joy and real growth.


As my friend Aaron would say, “Don’t stop your momentum by comparing yourself to someone else’s race. Run your own.” It’s time to stop comparing ourselves to every one else. We all start somewhere, and we all get to where we want to go. You can’t skip the steps to becoming your best self. You can’t magically appear at the finish line. So why not enjoy your race? Loving encourage yourself to keep one foot in front of the other, and remind yourself you are EXACTLY where you are suppose to be.


You are beautiful! You are enough! You have enough! You freaking rock! There is only one you! You are unique! And whatever you lack will come to you in time. This is your journey, wave at and bless those who pass you up and keep your eyes on where you are going. You will get there. Look around, you are already there ;)

10 Responses to “Are You Robbing Yourself of Joy?”

  1. Matt D. May 1, 2014 at 2:15 pm #

    Mary: I fight this battle daily! I know I am doing what it takes to be a successful attorney, but there is another great joy that gets stolen every time I hear the words: “What do you know about leadership? You’re too busy to pursue that dream! You’ve got enough on your plate and you can’t afford (literally) the cost of pursuing a separate dream.” Thanks for the good words of encouragement.

    • Mary Crimmins May 1, 2014 at 8:28 pm #

      Matt, I can totally relate. Sounds like you need an affirmation that combats all those fears and the resistance and tells yourself the truth. That you have what it takes, and that you can pursue anything your heart desires. We are the only ones getting in our own way haha

  2. Jane Babich May 1, 2014 at 4:23 pm #

    Mary, So blessed you are doing this series. Affirmation is so important and self affirmation is so often overlooked or misunderstood. Looking forward to watching and learning.

    • Mary Crimmins May 1, 2014 at 8:27 pm #

      Thanks Jane! You are so right. It really can be misunderstood, and I can’t wait to get them up on my site!

  3. Diane May 2, 2014 at 9:05 pm #

    What a timely blog. Thank you for your wisdom and your honesty. I needed to hear this today.

    • Mary Crimmins May 5, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

      Hey Diane, thanks so much for your comment. Don’t you love it when time works like that? :)

  4. Dorothy Johnson May 4, 2014 at 10:18 pm #

    I appreciated this post more than you can imagine. It have been plagued with this problem so so bad for the last 5 years. Actually for life, but worse for the last five years.
    It helps to have post it affirmations around the house to remind me that “I am enough”

    • Mary Crimmins May 5, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

      Thank you so much for your comment Dorothy. It’s kind of amazing how much having printed affirmations around your house helps!

  5. Elizabeth Heyenga May 17, 2014 at 11:05 pm #

    Happened upon your site by accident and love it, the wisdom, the positivity, the design. As I am getting close to launching a new endeavor I needed to see the quote on beginnings (there are no coincidences!).

    Our brain retains what we give the most space. Affirmations take up positive space and chase away the fear/not good enough/comparison thief stuff. I’m glad when I see positive things on the internet, I stay away from social media because it so often feeds “less than” stuff in us.

    • Mary Crimmins May 22, 2014 at 2:53 pm #

      Hey Elizabeth, thank you so much for sharing this with me! And I’m so glad you found me ;) It’s a constant battle chasing away fear and self doubt that everyone struggles with. Gotta keep our affirmations in our tool belt for every day use!

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