Breakdowns Precede Breakthroughs
This season of my life can be summed up with breakdowns and breakthroughs. Choosing to grow has been one of the hardest decisions of my life.
The good, the great, the bad, and the ugly usually come out all in one day. Which can make it very hard to navigate. This past week has been particularly hard and I’ve been struggling to keep my head above water. I have been facing my deepest fears, those fears below all the layers that we typically go our whole lives without addressing.
However, I am choosing to kick fear in the face and face it. Lord, give me strength!
I am still right in the thick of it. Change can happen quickly, and also takes time. It’s small and huge all at the same time. An old therapist always used to tell me, “It gets worse before it gets better.” Or another common saying is, “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” This is how breakthroughs happen.A Little Bit About Breakdowns:
Breakdowns always precede break throughs. You really have to go through all the muck in order to get to the breakthrough.
In order to change we have to change our belief systems, and shed those old truths that are no longer serving us. Breathe in and release the old patterns. Fear is always the culprit, and not the truth.
Breakdowns are not the end, but just the beginning.How to Move Through a Breakthrough:
Gratitude - Fear cannot exist where there is gratitude. My trainer this morning said “Be grateful for the growth. This is an opportunity not to be stagnant, but to be your best self.” Literally pause and see what you can be grateful for in this. When the fear of moving through takes a hold of you, pause and shift to gratitude.
Acceptance - What we resist, persists. Instead of fighting the breakdown, allow yourself to fully feel it. Journal through the process. Cry and scream. Not judging, but allow yourself to feel the grief of letting those old patterns go. Make the time to be in that space, and physically feel and then surrender.
Self Talk/Meaning - How you define what is happening, changes your whole experience. Instead of coloring the breakdowns as terrible, bad or seeing yourself as weak or failing see that this will be used for good. “I choose to see that I am strong, I am a warrior. This will not ingulf me. This is a breakdown and will not last forever. I am moving through. I am emerging.” Keep repeating this to yourself. I say this probably 20 times a day right now.
Tell Yourself the Truth - Don’t settle into the fear or the lies. Claim what you want to replace those old patterns with. You have to keep reminding yourself of the vision of where you are headed. That place is better. This is just the process to get there.
Pray/Meditate - This is a time to ask for guidance and clarity. Whether you pray, meditate or both – this journey to our best selves is largely spiritual. Open yourself up to the wisdom of the ages. Connect with your higher self, to God, to the Universe or whatever you call it. Take the time to listen. Get quiet and open your ears to hear the truth.
Breathe - Just breathe. When you don’t know what else to do, pause and breathe. Recognize you are not alone, even when you feel it. If nothing else, you can say “Mary knows how I feel.” Just keep breathing.
I would love to hear your breakthroughs. Be brave and share below.
Did you have to go through the breakdown to get there?