Do you suck at Celebrating?
I almost don’t want to say this out loud but…
I SUCK AT CELEBRATING!
When I was younger the only way I learned to celebrate was through food. A tradition in my family was the concept of “Pick Me Ups.” If there was ever a time to celebrate or cope with life, it had to do with treating yourself to a pick me up. A little treat that usually consisted of some ice cream or candies. I learned early on this is what celebration looked like.
Fast forward to my adult life.
I just completed a 5 day juice cleanse with ease. Each time I do a cleanse it gets easier and easier. Instead of stopping to celebrate my accomplishment and celebrate the way my body felt – I spent the next 3 days feeling like I had failed for not going longer and was looking towards the next thing I could check off the list of accomplishments. And confession: I indulged in many heavy unhealthy meals that made me feel terrible.
The crazy thing is, that attitude and behavior is 100% incongruent with my core beliefs. I believe that we MUST celebrate life. We must celebrate the little victories and the large ones. I encourage and preach to those I know to stop and celebrate. Too often we get on the hamster wheel of life and feel like we are running in circles; never obtaining or reaching where we want to go. All the while we are growing and advancing closer to our best selves.
Life is short. Life is precious. Life is beautiful. Life is difficult, and we are rocking it! So let’s celebrate!
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. – Oprah Winfrey
Be on the lookout for things to celebrate. First, we must start to recognize the things that are worth celebrating. Job promotions, sure. But how about recognizing that we no longer are dependent on Diet Coke. Huge! Or the fact that we got off our anti-anxiety medication for a more natural approach. Huge! Honor your metamorphosis.
Make a list of ways to celebrate. As Americans, we do not live in a celebratory culture. So we need a little help. Come up with 20 ways you would love to celebrate any given thing. That way whenever you need to celebrate you can choose from a list of your favorite things. Pedicures, golf, a nice meal, dance in the rain, yoga class or anything that sounds enjoyable to you.
Give yourself a moment to feel the joy. Even if we have something to celebrate, many times we go on to “Well, I didn’t do this”, or “It would have been better if.” No! Stop, and give yourself a minute or more to actually feel the joy of being proud of yourself. Speak to yourself the way your teacher would have when you did well in school. “Good job honey! I knew you could do it. You are so gifted. I am so proud of you.”
Bring someone along with you. We need to teach each other how to celebrate. Calling up a friend or family member and asking “I’d like to celebrate the fact that I…. would you help me?” instantly gives that friend permission to do the same. Create a culture with your friends that allows the time and space to celebrate life! Especially if you are a leader, you have to show by example.
Start small. If you want to learn how to really celebrate it has to penetrate your whole life. Seriously, stop to smell the roses. Roll down your window. Sit down to enjoy that delicious cup of coffee. Slow down and be in the moment. We can celebrate life just by being conscious of our breath. If we are faithful to celebrate in the small things, that will trickle into the rest of our lives and we will be ready to celebrate the big stuff.
So my sweet friends, I commit to you to celebrate life. To look up towards the sun and breathe in the joy of life.
What is something you choose to celebrate today that you haven’t yet?
Comment below and share with others how you will celebrate.