Living with Uncertainty

Uncertainty Just Ahead Green Road Sign with Dramatic Storm Clouds and Sky.

Oh boy, do I have a humbling story to share with you. Humbling because I basically relapsed to old patterns of anxious feelings.

So I’ve been gearing up to go to Chicago to help a team member in my company teach a class to a group of about 50 women in business. I’ve had this planned for a couple weeks. Chris can attest, I’ve been excited but also a nervous wreck.

Where am I going to stay? Who am I going to eat with? Where do I eat? How do I get from the airport to my hotel? How do I navigate the subway? What do I need to bring for business? And the list goes on and on.

Until 9am this morning, I didn’t have directions to where I was going to stay. And my flight was at 10:40. This is WAY out of my comfort zone. I am a creature of comfort.

Whenever Chris and I go on a trip, I like to do all the research ahead of time and figure out where we are going to stay, which restaurants we are going to eat at, and which sites to hit. This was not the case with this trip. As many of you know, I have struggled with crippling anxious feelings. However, with the help of diet, yoga, and a holistic lifestyle I have been able to support my body fully.

The issue arose, when I realized that I had been burning the candles at both ends, eating crappy and forgetting to do my daily self care rituals. Couple all that with the uncertainty of a trip by myself; you guessed it, MELTDOWN.

Basically this morning, I almost went into a full panic. My poor husband Chris nudged me to breathe and apply some essential oils. Thankfully, I had packed all my oils and I pulled them out right then and there on the drive to the airport. I applied the Grounding Blend essential oil and the Calming blend essential oil–layered on top of each other. Oh, did I mention that I also forgot my safety net of Xanax?

Suddenly, I’m basking in the warm glow of the sun at the beach. “What? I thought you said you were going to Chicago?” You are correct my friend, but I found my happy place, well happy oil in this case. I instantly felt my calm self coming back, like I was on vacation. Call it high, call it relaxed – it doesn’t matter, I was sipping a margarita at the beach.

The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount

of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.

-Tony Robbins


A Few Things to Help Cope with Uncertainty


#1 Rest, and take care of yourself. Someone who is burnt out is asking for a meltdown.

#2 When you are feeling uncertain, reach for a natural solution. Whether that’s deep breathing, connecting to the earth by becoming aware of your body, or using something like essential oils. Or perhaps all three.

#3 Get into the right mindset – Play some music that motivates you and get into the zone.

#4 Change your physiology – Get up and dance, jump and scream or sing. Changing your physical body helps to move you past the emotion and actually rewire your brain to chill out and stay really strong. Make a power move! Don’t over think it, allow your body to kick in and lean into the uncertainty.

#5 Train your mind with an incantation (not affirmation). An incantation means that you not only speak it but embody it with all the intensity that you can in your voice and your body. Repeat, repeat, repeat. This is much more powerful than a simple positive affirmation. You are engaging your whole body to make the change. It could sound like this “I now command my subconscious mind to help give me the strength, the emotion, the persuasion to feel strong, healthy, balanced and alive.” 

Uncertainty is healthy – If you are like me and your certainty in life is WAY higher than your uncertainty, then it’s a good idea to push yourself to do a few things that stretch you emotionally.

This trip to Chicago has helped me blast through my anxious feelings simply because I had no other option than to step up. Riding in the subway today, I stood strong, put on my dance music and smiled at all the faces and filled my heart with gratitude for this new experience.

Where does your uncertainty lie, and how are you leaning into it?