Living with Uncertainty


Uncertainty Just Ahead Green Road Sign with Dramatic Storm Clouds and Sky.

Oh boy, do I have a humbling story to share with you. Humbling because I basically relapsed to old patterns of anxiety.

So I’ve been gearing up to go to Chicago to help a team member in doTERRA teach a class to a group of about 50 women in business. I’ve had this planned for a couple weeks. Chris can attest, I’ve been excited but also a nervous wreck.

Where am I going to stay? Who am I going to eat with? Where do I eat? How do I get from the airport to my hotel? How do I navigate the subway? What do I need to bring for business? And the list goes on and on.

Until 9am this morning, I didn’t have directions to where I was going to stay. And my flight was at 10:40. This is WAY out of my comfort zone. I am a creature of comfort.

Whenever Chris and I go on a trip, I like to do all the research ahead of time and figure out where we are going to stay, which restaurants we are going to eat at, and which sites to hit. This was not the case with this trip. As many of you know, I have struggled with crippling anxiety. However, with the help of diet, yoga and essential oils I have been able to rid my body of all medication.

The issue arose, when I realized that I had been burning the candles at both ends, eating crappy and forgetting to take my daily dose of essential oils. Couple all that with the uncertainty of a trip by myself; you guessed it, MELTDOWN.

Basically this morning, I almost went into a full panic attack. My poor husband Chris nudged me to breathe and apply some essential oils. Thankfully, I had packed all my oils like a good witch doctor and I pulled them out right then and there on the drive to the airport. I applied Balance (the Grounding Blend) and Serenity (the Calming blend). Oh, did I mention that I also forgot my safety net of Xanax?

Suddenly, I’m basking in the warm glow of the sun at the beach. “What? I thought you said you were going to Chicago?” You are correct my friend, but I found my happy pill, well happy oil in this case. I instantly felt relief of the anxiety and felt like I was on vacation. Call it high, call it relaxed – it doesn’t matter, I was sipping a margarita at the beach.

The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with -Tony Robbins

A Few Things to Help Cope with Uncertainty:


#1 Rest, and take care of yourself. Someone who is burnt out is asking for a meltdown.

#2 When you are feeling uncertain, reach for a natural solution. Whether that’s deep breathing, connecting to the earth by becoming aware of your body, or using something like essential oils. Or perhaps all three.

#3 Get into the right midset – Play some music that motivates you and get into the zone.

#4 Change your physiology - Get up and dance, jump and scream or sing. Changing your physical body helps to move you past the emotion and actually rewire your brain to chill out and stay really strong. Make a power move! Don’t over think it, allow your body to kick in and lean into the uncertainty.

#5 Train your mind with an incantation (not affirmation). An incantation means that you not only speak it but imbody it with all the intensisty that you can in your voice and your body. Repeat, repeat, repeat. This is much more powerful than a simple positive affirmation. You are engaging your whole body to make the change. It could sound like this “I now command my subconscious mind to help give me the strength, the emotion, the persusian to feel strong, healthy, balanced and alive.” 

Uncertainty is healthy – If you are like me and your certainty in life is WAY higher than your uncertainty, than it’s a good idea to push yourself to a few things that stretch you emotionally.

This trip to Chicago has helped me blast through my anxiety simply because I had no other option than to step up. Riding in the subway today, I stood strong, put on my dance music and smiled at all the faces and filled my heart with gratitude for this new experience.

Where does your uncertainty lie, and how are you leaning into it?

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12 Responses to “Living with Uncertainty”

  1. Robert Kennedy III April 24, 2013 at 1:49 pm #

    First, I’ve gotta say I’m diggin the graphics. I love, love, love the numbers. Sorry to gush about something so simple ;-) . This article is so to the core. It definitely IS ok to doubt and have moments of uncertainty. I don’t have to know everything. I can be nervous. It’s called being human. But like you say, blast through it and continue to stretch. Love this.

    • Mary Crimmins April 24, 2013 at 1:55 pm #

      Thanks Robert! Glad you appreciate the small things :) You are absolutely right, uncertainty is inevitable. However, who wants to stay there for very long haha. Thanks for your comment.

  2. Chris Elrod April 24, 2013 at 1:54 pm #


    Thank you for this encouraging post! I speak affirmations all the time, but haven’t thought of incantations! All of your suggestions are very helpful.

    • Mary Crimmins April 24, 2013 at 2:02 pm #

      Thanks Chris. Incantations will just expedite the affirmation process. They are amazing, just remember to use the whole body!

  3. Carrie Nunes April 24, 2013 at 2:21 pm #

    Mary, I would love to introduce you to my meditation instructor sometime. She teaches Vedic meditation which is basically transcendental. I think you would really dig it, even if you are doing some on your own already. It helped me with anxiety on a very deep level along with the diet changes and yoga. For me, repeated episodes of anxiety left an imprint, a body memory. My body remembered these episodes and each new one was getting increasingly worse with a greater release of adrenaline. I had to slowly replace that body memory with one of calm, alert relaxation. My body then had a different response to stressful situations. (I still get mild waves every once in a while but it is vastly improved.) Anyway, let me know if you ever have interest. Glad you made it to Chicago!

    • Mary Crimmins April 24, 2013 at 4:33 pm #


      Wow, what a powerful testimony. I would absolutely love to try that. I haven’t heard of Vedic meditation, but I’m really interested in looking that up. I love that you mentioned replacing your body’s memory. I think that goes with anything. You have to learn to condition your mind with new memories and experiences, and even giving old memories new meaning. Thanks so much for sharing, and I can’t wait to try it out.

  4. Andrea Cloninger Wilson April 24, 2013 at 8:21 pm #

    Thanks for being so transparent, Mary. I don’t think we talk enough about the meltdowns in our lives. It’s still taboo, and we feel like we’re the only person who can’t “just handle it.” Not so. I also love learning from you about natural ways to prevent anxiety. Lifestyle is so important, and I’m learning about things that I can add that I’ve never even heard of before! Keep up the great work.

    • Mary Crimmins April 24, 2013 at 9:29 pm #

      Thanks Andrea. Meltdowns happen to the best of us ;) However, it’s so nice to know I don’t have to reach for my Xanax anymore and instead can lean on natural ways to relieve the anxiety. Thanks for your comment!

  5. joy wilson April 25, 2013 at 12:56 pm #

    Oh Mary I am so looking forward to rescheduling coffee with you sometime….I want to hear more of your story and be challenged by you to have a similar story for myself. Your blog is so inspiring and I am glad to know you!

    • Mary Crimmins April 25, 2013 at 2:13 pm #

      Joy, we definitely need to have coffee! I’d love to hear your story and help encourage each other.

  6. Lauren September 2, 2014 at 6:21 pm #

    Hi Mary,
    I came across your site while doing a Google search on essential oils. I too struggle with anxiety and am curious, which oils do you take to replace your Xanax/Zoloft/anti-anxiety meds? I have been recommended to start taking an anti-anxiety medication and would prefer not to. I am new to essential oils and appreciate any information you can provide. Warm regards, Lauren

    • Mary Crimmins September 3, 2014 at 4:45 pm #

      Hey Lauren! I thought it’d be easiest to show you this post I wrote about anxiety and oils:
      I use all of those oils I listed but tend to gravitate towards Balance, Serenity, and Frankincense the most. I can email you if you need any info on ordering!

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